A Letter to Those Who Are Struggling
I’ve received a few messages over the last couple weeks about people asking me to write specific posts. I’m noticing that many of them are pertaining to depression, anxiety, winter blues, heartbreak, etc. I do wish I could help each and every one of you, but I am no expert in any of this. In fact, I struggle with depression and anxiety myself. So here’s a letter for us all.
This will pass. I know it feels like it never will, but it will. Maybe not tomorrow, or next week, but some morning, you’ll wake up, and you won’t hurt all over. You might always have occasional bad days, but you’ll also have occasional good days. There was a time when I was so depressed, I didn’t see the point in bearing that pain. The good days didn’t seem worth having to endure all the bad days. I couldn’t get out of bed, and nothing seemed good anymore.
I think now, that it is worth it. The horribly difficult days are worth enduring. If I hadn’t endured the worst days, I wouldn’t appreciate the good days as much as I do. I’m challenging you to appreciate the ordinary. Start taking notice of ordinary moments where you aren’t sad. Appreciate the Christmas lights on you drive home. Appreciate those times when you’re with your friends and everything seems easy. Take a deep breath in and appreciate that your nose isn’t stuffed up. Feel grateful for your bed when you lie down at night. Feel grateful for your body that carries you day in and day out. Try to appreciate with intention. Intentionally appreciate the ordinary every single day.
If you need to let yourself feel it, then let yourself feel it. Make sure you’re with someone you trust, and let yourself feel the sadness. Try to talk about it if you can. Listen to sad songs you can relate to, and let yourself cry. Being able to truly feel those emotions is an incredible strength. Letting yourself feel the part of your soul that is broken can physically hurt. I used to feel like my deep feelings were a flaw. Over the years, people have taught me that my sensitivity is my strength. While I feel sorrow strongly, I also feel joy strongly. Once you’ve let yourself feel, wake up the next day and try to move forward. It’s important to feel your sorrow, but it’s also important not to get lost in it. You get to be in control of your emotions. Start the next day facing the sun. Literally, turn to feel the sun on your face. Notice the joy around you. Let it seep into your soul.
None of this is going to cure your depression. Nothing will ease all of your anxieties. The traumatic events that you’ve endured will always live in your heart. There are lots of articles out there with lists of ways to cure your troubles, but I truly believe that the only true cure is time. It will take time. Even the worst of days will end. The days, months, and years will pass. You’re the only constant, so take care of yourself.
If you are ever feeling too alone, please don’t hesitate to reach out to me. If you don’t feel comfortable reaching out to me, try a friend, or a family member. You are important. Remember, emotions are not a weakness. They are our strength. They are what make us human.
All my love,